How To Spot A Narcissist - Are You Dealing With A Toxic Person?
Learn About The Narcissist
There is so much content out there – really good stuff. Sometimes the volume of information can be overwhelming, and when you are already feeling stressed out, if you are traumatised it can be too much to digest.
This little series is designed to go back to basics – understanding narcissism in bite-size chunks. Nuggets of valuable information, that can be absorbed because a stressed, overwhelmed brain isn’t remembering everything you want it to.
I believe that narcissistic abuse is hypnotic a terrible form of hypnosis. And what better way to undo the effects of bad hypnosis – using good hypnotic strategies to rewire your mind.
Narcissism and Narcissus
Narcissists are characterized by their inflated sense of self. An outward projection of self-love and grandiosity (thinking they are just simply sensational! Better than everyone else.) AS with a lot of languages, the word Narcissist originated from somewhere else – this case Greek mythology. Narcissus was a beautiful man, and one day in a forest saw his reflection in a pool of water. Noticing how he was so impossibly handsome, he fell in love with himself, He in fact loved himself so much he couldn’t bear to look away and starved to death… His remains turned into the flower Narcissus, which today, most of us call a Daffodil… Moving on.
How Do You Spot A Narcissist?
A Narcissist will think very highly of themselves, and they expect others too as well – if you don’t you are the enemy. Their attitude is very much that you must adore them, but this will not be reciprocated. They do not have the capacity to care for anyone else other than themselves. A true narcissistic personality disorder NPD means the wiring is different in the brain. Their brains actually work differently. That condition is estimated to affect 6% of the population (1) and is right at the very top end of that personality disorder spectrum. Most narcissists that you experience are high on the spectrum but are not on medication for it. Most, not all.
The 7 signs of narcissism to look out for:
1 A narcissist will be self-absorbed
and does not have an ability to empathize. They don’t need to know or understand you or your emotions. Only how to use them against you.
2 They are entitled
They really aren’t fussed about the needs or desires of anyone else. Focus and attention will be on satisfying their own needs, and if they don’t get when they want, you can expect them to be angry about it.
3 They believe they are better than you.
A narcissist will be critical and condescending. They will demean you, tell you how rubbish and stupid you are, then justify their bullying behaviour by making sure to point out everyone else’s flaws, because of course… they have none..
4 They will need to be in control.
Power in a relationship or business is key. Their agenda will be based around their beliefs on how life is supposed to be for them,.
5 Dishonest and Manipulative.
A narcissist will pretend to be a certain way, adjusting behaviours, appearing to be friendly, showing up as someone you really want to be around. Filling the gap of what you have been missing, only to show their true colours later on, when you are already snared.
6 Cannot accept criticism or suggestions.
No one likes being told they are wrong, but we can accept when we have and make adjustments or learn. Narcissists will become defensive and will reverse any blame or accusation onto you or someone else. They will deny everything.
7 Black and white thinking.
How they see and experience the world, their perspective is right. Everyone else who does not agree is wrong. Their belief is that everything about them is so unique, no one else could possibly understand, let alone match them. They will have a unique version of events to anything that happens.
So that’s it. The first Narcissism Basics. Short, Sweet, to the point info in digestible chunks. Next, I will dive into the types of narcissism.
Self Preservation Plan
Perhaps you are thinking about leaving your narcissist but at the moment you are stuck in the environment. Get Your Self Preservation Plan to take care of yourself whilst you are stuck.